The tooth fairy. The Easter bunny. The female orgasm.

All things that don’t exist.

Right?

Well, not exactly. 

The elusive female orgasm is possible. Trust me, as a woman, I’ve been there and done that. It’s just that not a lot of guys know how to help their girl get there. So I’m here to give you the scoop about creaming that little pussy hole. If you wanna know how to make her cum, then here’s the only guide you’ll need.

It’s not going to be the easiest thing in the world, but it’s not impossible either. Take notes on this and she'll definitely be asking for an encore.

Understanding the Female Orgasm

First, we need a baseline understanding of the female orgasm: what it is and what it looks like.

Most women are capable of having an orgasm, research shows that nearly 95% of us can reach the big O. That's, like, almost all of us. If you're hooking up with a girl or getting into a new relationship, chances are she's capable of getting there. And if not, she'll let you know (more on communication later).

While most gals can orgasm, only 65% of them cum during penetrative sex. Which is crazy because WHAT. This is the infamous “orgasm gap” that you might have heard about. It’s a big gap because guys probably orgasm like, 99% of the time.

What’s interesting is that over 90% of women can orgasm when masturbating alone. But, hey, I can’t complain because you’re here in the first place. You actually care, and that’s half the battle.

While each woman is unique and prefers to be touched in different ways, there are some generalizations you can make about women’s pleasure.

Know that women do take longer than men to reach climax. We’re also typically into consistency over straight pounding. The biggest tip I could probably give you is this:

REMEMBER THE CLIT!

It’s a small, button-shaped part of a woman’s body, hiding under a fold of skin (the clitoral hood) towards the top of the vagina.

Now, before we get into the technical details of what to do with it...

Let's talk about setting the stage.

Foreplay First

The fun starts before you even step in the bedroom. I’m sure you know by now that good sex starts with foreplay.

Send her a flirty text in the middle of the day, and accompany it with a spicy pic. 

And when the moment actually arrives, make sure to take your sweet, sweet time with foreplay. Don’t be shy to spend quite a bit of time with fingering, kissing, and licking. I would recommend letting her take the lead on when exactly to jump to the next step. Let her decide when to grab, grind, and go down on you. You won’t be rushing into things if she’s the one setting the rhythm.

You could kill two birds with one stone by asking her if she’s ready for more. You’re continuing the foreplay while giving her the chance to continue it or move on.

Say something like, “Are you ready for me to stretch that tight little pussy?” or “Tell me when you want me to put it in…”

Clit and G Spot Loving 

The clit and G-spot are two areas on a woman’s body that will require special attention. Think of these as her pleasure control panel. Master these buttons and you're basically a sex god.

The Clit’s Lit

While it may be intimidating to come face to face with this tiny little nub, it is helpful to have a few tricks up your sleeve to elicit some throaty moans. The first tip has to do with your tip, if you get what I mean…

Your penis head is warm, erect, and may be the secret to unlocking some cream worthy moments. Start by rubbing your penis head along the vaginal opening, working your way towards the clit, and nudge it softly with your tip. Circular motions are your best friend here! 

If your penis is a shy boy, and isn’t ready for some coochie action, opt for your fingers instead. Similar to what you would do with your dick, rub the clit in slow circles. Watch her body language as you change the rhythm and motion of your finger movements. Heavier breathing = hitting the right spot. Silence = change it up or ask what she likes!

Now if your fingers get tired, your mouth is a natural transition into more intimate time with the clit. Try different sucking styles. Maybe your girl likes constant suction or maybe she likes a variety of soft and hungry sucks. Communicate and most importantly experiment together to find what works best for you both. 

The G-Spot

It’s not just a place where all the G’s hang out, it’s a real spot on a woman’s body.

The G-spot, like the clit, is full of nerve endings that have the potential to evoke earth shattering orgasms from that special girl in your life. The G-spot is located inside the interior of your vagina, and is most easily stimulated when a finger is inserted at an angle, and moved in a come hither motion. Act like you're trying to hook your finger toward the belly button, and it should do the trick. Not every girl is super sensitive in their G-spot area, so it can be a hit or miss. 

Hit the Erotic Spots

There’s more to it than just the vag. A woman’s breasts can sometimes contribute to their pleasure. Definitely feel it out and ask her if she’s into breast play. Make it smooth, something like “Move my hands to where you want them…”

And while the clit is important, the surrounding area on her vagina could also contribute a lot to her pleasure.

Other Hot Zones

Something surprising to learn is that girls can get really turned on when they get touched in certain spots. Spots that aren’t anywhere near their genitals.

Rub her back a bit, caress her wrists, go for the neck… really explore her body.

A lot of guys forget about the other parts of a woman’s body. It really does go far beyond the tits and ass.

We wanted to find out just where girls like being touched, so we ran a survey. Of course, no research could match the specific needs of your partner, so be sure to ask whenever you can. But if you’re in the swing of things and neither of you are able to do much talking, then this should help.

Here’s what we learned when we asked 300 gals where they love to be touched the most (aside from the genitals):

Neck/throat: 28%

Inner thighs/feet: 22%

Scalp/hair being touched: 18%

Ears: 12%

Lower back: 9%

Hands/fingers/arms: 6%

Stomach/abdomen: 3%

None - only genital stimulation matters: 2%

And probably more importantly, we asked: How important is non-genital touch to your overall sexual satisfaction?

Extremely important: 35% (105)

Very important: 42% (126)

Moderately important: 18% (54)

Slightly important: 4% (12)

Not important at all: 1% (3)

That’s making it crystal clear. More than half of all women think that non-genital stimulation is important when it comes to having an orgasm.

COMMUNICATE. FOLLOW DIRECTIONS.

I’m going to be real with you for a second.

You can disregard everythinggggg I’ve said up to now. I mean, I hope you don’t, but you can. And if you do, then there’s only one thing I want you to remember.

LISTEN AND PAY ATTENTION!

That's it!!! Sometimes, it is just that simple.

A lot of guys struggle with this one. To be fair, it’s not because they’re intentionally disobeying their partner or ignoring their requests. Most of the time they just get a little too excited.

For example, if you’re eating a girl out and she suddenly says “Just like that,” then don’t shift rhythm or apply more pressure. Keep doing what you’re doing and listen to her directions.

Switchin’ the Positions

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both parties. But let’s face it, some positions feel better for her and some feel better for you. No problem with that at all! It’s just important to know which positions she prefers.

Of course, you could always just ask her. But if you’re doing some heavy petting and you don’t want to disrupt the flow, then here are some positions you could try out:

• Eating her out. It’s a classic for a reason. Treat her like the queen she is. Broaden your tongue and lick upwards towards the clit. Move your tongue in little circles around her clit. Move in different directions and see what she responds to.

• Spooning. It’s comfortable, intimate, and prime for hitting that G-spot. Gravity’s your friend here, guiding you exactly where you need to go. Use your free hands to play with her breasts or hold her tight.

• Hit it from behind. You’re able to really dig deep here. Plus, it’s so much easier for the both of you to get into a nice rhythm. This position is almost like a dance, where you’re both able to set your own tempos until you meet in the middle.

• Let her ride it. Sometimes, you just gotta submit. Be a stick of meat for a few minutes and let her take complete control. While you’re completely inserted, let her grind it out and do what feels best for her. Trust me, she’ll absolutely love it.

Try Toys

There are just some things that you’ll never be able to do. Like having a vibrating cock or rotating your entire shaft inside of someone. You know, stuff like that.

But sex toys really do open up a whole new world of pleasure. For your girl and for yourself.

At some point in your life you need to experience the thrill of using a sex toy on your partner and watching her go crazy.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys are insecure when it comes to toys. They think that toys are their replacement, when that’s not the case at all. Think of toys as tools, not your competition. They’re means to an end, which is to provide your girl with as much pleasure as possible.

Common Mistakes to Avoid Like the Plague

We really scoured the internet when writing this post, but there was one piece of information that we couldn’t quite find. So we ran a survey to answer this question:

What ruins a woman’s orgasm at the last second?

1. Rhythm changes at 47%.

2. Mental distraction at 23%.

3. Partner performance at 16%.

4. Changing positions at 13%.

5. Environment at 1%.

Let’s make some sense of these numbers. First of all, most of these stem from miscommunication. Rhythm changes being at number one wasn’t too surprising. Like I said, a lot of guys get too caught up in the moment. Changing positions isn’t that shocking either. It’s when a guy decides that now is the perfect time to start up missionary again. Let me repeat: it’s all about communication and cues.

Honestly, mental distraction isn’t quite the man’s fault. But as a sexual partner, you could still reduce it by making sure that your partner is completely comfortable at all times during your session.

Seeing partner performance on this survey might be a little intimidating, but it’s really no big deal at all. This accounts for when the guy finishes a bit early or becomes too tired to continue. Trust me, this isn’t a dealbreaker. When something like this happens (and it will happen at least a few times in your life), then simply continue to please your partner with oral or hand stimulation.

It seems like environmental reasons were at an absolute minimum. This accounts for the room temperature being too hot or external disruptions. Not really anything you can do at this point besides continuing when circumstances allow it.

The Secret Key…

We’ve gone through so much information. There is one thing that you really can’t learn or get “good” at.

Time together really enhances sex. When you’re both super into each other for quite a while, you really do learn all about each other’s bodies. And this is probably the ultimate way to know how to make her cum.

Let’s Finish

So get to it! Send your girl a freaky text right now. Start that orgasm build up and get ready to really enhance your sex life.

And if you wanna try out the best sex toy in the world (according to us) then check out the Thrum!